What Does a Man Feel During an Affair

The husband of a female coworker was caught having an affair. The news spread around the office like wild fire for several days. One day I over heard some coworkers talking about the affair. They described all of the torrid details that they had wrenched out of the victim. Surprisingly, the question that dominated their discussion was, "What does a man feel while having an affair?" That question stayed with me for the rest of the day.

What does a man fell while having an affair? The question can not be answered in a standard or logical way. Since every man is different and every relationship is different, the reasons than men enter into affairs are different, There can be no one answer. The answer of how a man fell while having an affair must be based on the circumstances around that affair, The answer lies between the cheater and the one being cheated on.

Presidential candidate Ross Perot made a statement that perfectly fits this topic, "A fed dog don't hunt." I have found that 90% of the men I have met that had an affair, or are having an affair, are doing so because something is missing in their present relationship. The reasons range from lack of love in the marriage to physical wants and needs. The common factor with all affairs is that something is missing in the relationship and the affair is filling that need.

There are two things that you must realize about affairs. First, that someone in the relationship is not feeling totally fulfilled. Second, is the realization that you may never know what is not being fulfilled. For both men and women those unfulfilled needs can rage from the loss of love in a relationship to not liking the hair style of your partner. There is no standard rule as to why people have affairs. It does not have to make sense.

Because there is no standard reason for having an affair, there are no standard feelings of a man while having an affair. A man will feel whatever he's out to feel. Remember, that every man makes a conscious decision to enter into an affair. His reasoning for making that decision can vary. He may just be an opportunist or be in a bad relationship. The mistake is to try to make these decisions part of a playbook that can be analyzed and predicted. Take it from a man, they can't. Stop trying to make sense out of it.

I would like women to know that your partner probably may never tell you their secret desires and needs. He may be ashamed, scared to ask, or know that you will just say no. That's why the dog out hunting. The decision to have an affair rests with the person who decided to have one. I does not rest with you. There are many options that might have been employed to avoid having an affair, but your partner decided not to use them.