Sex in a new relationship has always been a topic of discussion between my friends and I, and believe me, when I tell you, that I have heard plenty of things that men have said also. The emotional high of new relationships, often times, leads to sex before the relationship can handle that type of emotional involvement. Let's face it, sex usually means commitment for a relationship to most women, and most men just don't think about it that way, or aren't thinking at all.
Sex in a new relationship should be avoided in most cases. Society has taught us it's okay for men to have sex whenever they want, but if a women acts like that, well, there are a few names for that. A women in a new relationship has to be the strong one, when it comes to sex. If they give in to soon, they may never see or hear from the man again. It makes them look desperate, and worst of all, like one of those names, I don't care to mention.
If a women wants a long lasting relationship, they have to make a man work for it. If a women gives in to sex in a new relationship, they appear to be easy and disrespect creeps in. The man may start showing up late night just to crawl in bed with her. Won't take her out, be seen with her, or spend any quality time with her, other than the time spent having sex, of course. The only time they come around will be for sex and that isn't a relationship that is going to last.
Sex in a new relationship can happen when there is mutual respect for each other. Strong, long lasting relationships aren't built on sex. They are built on respect for each other and of course good old fashioned love. Respect and love walk, hand in hand, and if you lose respect, love soon fades away with it and the relationship is lost.
I have heard people say, "Well the feelings were just too strong", or, "It just happened". We, as a society are being taught to throw caution to the wind, be spontaneous and not to be held accountable for our actions. Sex is all over the television, Internet and even in slogans. There is even a movie out about being sex friends, that is horrendous to me. We have to hold ourselves accountable for our actions, respect ourselves by showing restraint to do the right thing. Stopping to think about the consequences of our actions is imperative when it comes to sex in a new relationship.
If you want a strong lasting relationship that is built on trust and mutual respect then you have to respect yourself first. More often times, than not, you should restrain from giving in to the heat of the moment. Real passion comes when the relationship has reached a level of commitment that allows you the freedom to lose yourself in your partner.
